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pat and kepleyWe are college buddies who both became stay-at-home dads. Pat likes cookies and Kepley thinks he is smarter than everyone else. We get along.

This blog is for dads who stay-at-home, are considering staying at home, work part or full time, or just anybody looking for a laugh; we want to help cultivate this growing dad community.

We are not “Mr. Mom,” so we do our best at being just a dad. It is a full time job. Twenty-four hours a day. Seven days a week.

If this is your first time visiting, click here to learn more. Listen to us tell our story on the Life of Dad After Show Podcast by clicking here.

**Disclaimer** We are not experts.


Baby’s First Year in 60 Seconds


When The Starlet was born I wanted to do something extraordinary for her. Little did I know that the idea was utterly insane. My goal was to get video of her every single day for a year. Every. Single. Day. For a year. Then, I would put together a video with one second from every day. Every. Single. Day. Continue reading

But Daddy Why Podcast Debut

but daddy whyA new podcast has landed into the podcasting world and it will save the lives and sanity of parents everywhere! Fortunately, I get to be a co-host of it with my Chicago Dad-brother, Eric, who blogs at DiaryDad’s Adventures. The podcast is called, “But Daddy Why?” We help answer those questions that kids MUST have answers to, but parents simply don’t have the answers for. We do the research and spin it into 20-30 minute podcast form.

Now that you’re sold and are wondering where you can send all of your money to, let me tell you this… Continue reading

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Huggies Wipes Saved My Marriage: Tales From the Parents Council

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I was invited to the inaugural Huggies Parents Council that was held in Chicago to discuss the controversy over “glass” found in Huggies wipes. There were a dozen fellow parent bloggers/influencers invited to bring concerns, comments, and/or criticism to the council and have a chance to speak directly to the brand. I saw this an awesome opportunity to represent the dad-voice to a major brand and to encourage more involvement of dads in marketing, research, and overall branding. What I didn’t expect was to realize that Huggies saved my marriage.

Before we get to the moment of clarity that made me go home and bombard my wife with huggies (really bad joke), let me give you a recap of what I learned. Before I went, I set up a poll to see how many of you used Huggies, how many heard about the controversy, what you did or would have done after hearing about the controversy, and if you had any specific concerns that you wanted me to bring to the brand.

I found it interesting that the majority of the people taking the survey said that they trusted the brand and either ignored the claim of glass in the wipes or would have researched the claim instead of simply halting use of the wipes immediately. That told me that parents see Huggies as a trusted brand. (Made me feel good about our choice in wipes, little did I know that it actually saved my marriage… more on that, soon.) Continue reading

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Adventures in Photography

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We have said from the inception of this blog that we would always be “dads first.” I have spent the last year carrying The Starlet around and making sure she doesn’t fall down the stairs, electrocute herself, or scratch my eyes out with her finger nails of fury. In that year, I haven’t been able to blog as much as I would have liked, but I have been experimenting and honing a skill that I’ve always wanted to explore…

Photography. With an expensive camera.

Allow me to explain…

We bought an expensive camera before the birth of The Understudy so that we could capture amazing pictures of our new life with a child. For a year and a half, I committed the ultimate sin as an “expensive” camera owner– I used it in Auto Mode the entire time.

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Concerns About Huggies Wipes

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In 2012, Huggies was challenged by the Dad Blogger world to change the depiction of fathers in their advertising campaign focusing on the “Ultimate Dad Test.” The short of it was that their diapers could withstand the test of, well… Dad. (*cue suspenseful piano music*)

The charge to end the message that the gender of the parent should have nothing to do with the strength of a diaper was lead by Chris Routly who blogs at Daddy Doctrines. Huggies responded quickly and actually remade their commercials from their “Dad Test” series of advertisements, “to make clear that it is the DIAPERS being tested, not the DADS.” Since then, they have the support of dads everywhere and have remained parent-centric in their advertising.

Recently, Huggies was in the news for concerns about glass found in their wipes. Huggies performed independent testing and released the findings on their website confirming that “NO glass or fiberglass was present.”

Huggies has decided to take it a step further and create a Huggies Parent Panel for a roundtable discussion with the Huggies brand to hear parents’ questions, concerns and any insights that they want to share. They felt it was important to have a voice from the stay-at-home dad contingency and it was decreed, by the powers-that-be, to be me, you see.

huggies surveyOn Monday, October 5th, I will attend the Huggies Parent Council where I can bring concerns, comments, and/or criticism to the Huggies brand from the most important people in the world; parents. Please take a quick moment (seriously quick, like less than a minute) to fill out this anonymous survey. Are you concerned about the Huggies brand or about glass in their wipes? Let me know and when the council is over, I will update you on your concerns.

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Finding Fatherhood: 5 Ways for New Moms to Help New Dads

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No matter how many baby books you read, nurseries you decorate or informative five point lists you share; nothing prepares you for having a child. The best I can say is that it’s like dumping a bucket of ice water over your head, except the water never stops, and the temperature keeps changing.

New mothers I meet sometimes share their concerns about the fathers of their children. Will he be a good dad? Can a man be caring enough to establish a loving bond with their child? It does not matter if a father is blue collar, white collar, northeast, west or southern; all men are capable of that. If anything, this generation of fathers wants to be involved, but doesn’t know where to start in an environment geared towards moms. New dads can be hesitant, but that does not mean they don’t want to learn. Here are five ways for new moms to help new dads.

Don’t Crush Them With Lists

When you have your first child, neither parent knows what to do. Moms focus that fear of the unknown into an unending pursuit of books, blogs, and Dr. Web MD. Dads hope to come across a parenting video that uses 80’s references and explosions as teaching points. Guys don’t have the same hulking expectations from society, so we get overwhelmed by a bottle-preparation list longer than most car owner’s manuals. Lists are fine, but discussions are better. Continue reading

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Octopus Bath Time Toss : Nuby Review

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When we received our very first shipment of products to review for Nuby Parent Bloggers, The Understudy and I saw the Octopus Floating Bath Toy and realized… it’s a game! We quickly practiced tossing the rings onto the tentacles and set a date for the World Championship of Octopus Bath Time Toss. It was going to be epic.

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The Understudy gets ready for the World Championship.

Before we get into the details of the World Championship, we want to tell you a little about this bath toy from Nuby. The first thing that I noticed was that it didn’t have the air hole that most floating bath toys have. You know, the one that gets water left in it and turns into a biology experiment within the belly of said toy? Yeh, that air hole. No air hole; no biology experiments for bath time which means we all survive to bathe another day. On top of that, the tentacles were super interesting to The Understudy and once we started throwing the 3 rings (a star, a circle, and a fish) onto the tentacles, we were hooked.

I’ll be honest, the ring toss aspect isn’t easy, especially the star. In fact, I had to spot The Understudy a few points in the World Championship just to give him a fighting chance. However, the little guy loves putting the rings onto the tentacles and exclaiming “I DID!” You can’t argue with that. Continue reading