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pat and kepleyWe are college buddies who both became stay-at-home dads. Pat likes cookies and Kepley thinks he is smarter than everyone else. We get along.

This blog is for dads who stay-at-home, are considering staying at home, work part or full time, or just anybody looking for a laugh; we want to help cultivate this growing dad community.

We are not “Mr. Mom,” so we do our best at being just a dad. It is a full time job. Twenty-four hours a day. Seven days a week.

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4th of july

5 Things Every Kid Should Know This 4th of July

4th of july

As our American holidays continue the slow decline into commercial bliss, I try to take the time to consider the message I am conveying to my children. The 4th of July is a celebration of a free nation, a place where ideas can be challenged freely and change can be implemented. Does it work perfectly? Of course not, it’s something I constantly take for granted and I want to remind myself why it’s important, so I can pass it along to my children. Here are 5 things every kid should know this 4th of July.

Be thankful for what you have

Kids don’t know how good they’ve got it. When I was growing up I had to beg to get call waiting and chose poorly in my BETA/VHS gamble. It can always be worse, ask the people who lived through the Great Depression. Be thankful.

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The Dad Brothers Go For a Walk

The Dad Brothers Go For a Walk

A nice walk outside has never failed to teach me something about life. Sometimes I learn a new little nuance of the world. Other times I learn that if you let your guard down, your two year old will choke you for fun while your hands are occupied tying their shoes.

Everyone needs to go for a “walk” sometimes and get away from the responsibilities that nag at us in the daily grind. Pat and I go on a yearly vacation with the four guys we lived with in college. We bicker and we moan and we love every moment of it. Why else would we keep doing it?

For a couple of days, the Dad Brothers are a plane ride away from their children and pretending they’re the same age as when they met. Meanwhile, Pat is wheezing up stairs and I am complaining about the restaurant booth hurting my back. Needless to say, we were the life of the party.

In college, we strove to be the life of the party. No one wanted to be the first one to go to sleep. Now, I want to take a nap and tell my pride to get back with me when I wake up. Having never been to Denver, CO., we were warned to wear sunscreen and drink plenty of water. I knew Pat would do neither of these things, so I nagged him relentlessly because he sweats like a shower and listens like my two year old.

I tease because I care.

Pat did great the first two days. On the third day, we got roasted in the bleachers of a baseball game. Our buddy Miller noticed Pat slumping. Since fake fainting resides in Pat’s comedy arsenal, we told him it wasn’t believable and to stop messing around. He did not answer. Pat was never that good of an actor.

When the paramedic told us how low his blood pressure was, I feared for my friend’s life. I didn’t care that my friend had not listened to me, I cared only that he was alright. Continue reading

a day in the life

A Day in the Life of a TODAY Show Taping

As part of a week-long tribute to dads leading up to Father’s Day, NBC’s the TODAY Show followed three stay-at-home dads around for an entire day to capture “a day in the life.” They chose two of our fellow dad bloggers, Chris Bernholdt from DadNCharge and Mike Heenan from At-Home Dad Matters. I was fortunate enough to be chosen from Just a Dad 247, which meant at the age of one, The Understudy, would have his debut on national tv. (It was my debut as well, but let’s be honest, the kid is the star power.)

Here, There and Everywhere
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The Understudy warms up for his TODAY Show debut by watching the TODAY Show with the TODAY Show producer

The producer and the cameraman showed up at 5:30am to ensure they got The Understudy waking up.

Everywhere we went, we were followed by the camera with a live microphone. The Understudy was skeptical of the camera at first, but warmed up to it eventually. I found the whole thing exciting, but I gotta admit, it’s a bit awkward going to your gym with a camera crew taping you walk in, go to the kid play area to drop off the kid, follow you through the entire gym and then ultimately tape you exercising on an elliptical.

I told The Wife that part and she said everyone there probably thought I was on some new weight loss reality show. That was a fat joke. Real funny. Continue reading

Dads Behaving Dadly: Delusions of a Stay-at-Home Dad

delusions of a stay at home dad - dads behaving dadly

As seen in the book Dads Behaving Dadly: 67 Truths, Tears and Triumphs of Modern Fatherhood from Motivational Press.

After many discussions, my wife and I decided I would become a stay-at- home dad when our son was 2-months-old. I was skeptical about whether I would thrive in my new position.
Would it be enough daily stimulation, interaction, conflict, etc. to get my hard-working juices flowing?

At first, I looked at it like this: I won’t have a real job. I’m taking the summer off! I’m going to spend some amazing time with my son. As the excitement rose for my new “job” as a stay-at-home dad, I decided to make a list of all the things I would get done:

• Read 3 books.
• Get back to my pre-baby weight.
• Ride my bike with the baby trailer up the big hill.
• Organize my photos in iPhoto.
• Misc jobs around the house: organize garage, organize office, etc.

At the end of the first week of staying at home, I had accomplished none of these things. I was beaten and broken like Humpty Dumpty after he fell off the wall. Continue reading

Pregnancy Announcement Shocks Parents

The Wife and I have 3 sets of parents spread out in 3 different states. It’s very rare that they are all in the same place at the same time. On The Understudy’s first birthday, they were all in town and, being the awesome children that we are, we decided to shock them with a pregnancy announcement.

As part of the social media fun, we posted this picture when it was time to announce the pregnancy to the social media world.

pregnancy announcement photo

And then this one to announce the gender.

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Have I told you how much I like cheese?

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Dads Behaving Dadly: Bad Haircut

dads behaving dadly bad haircut

As seen in the book Dads Behaving Dadly: 67 Truths, Tears and Triumphs of Modern Fatherhood from Motivational Press.

After having children, the only thing my wife and I argued about was our financial situation. When we were both working, we were so tired that we never paid attention to what we were spending. This changed when I started staying home with the kids. With just one income, we had to prioritize our “life-style needs” to make ends meet. (I call it that because, “Every last enjoyable thing that we still falsely believe we can do and buy, even though we have two children,” sounds desperate.) No longer could we crash exhaustedly into bed each night oblivious of spending habits. We had to wake up and tighten our belts. And when I say “we” I meant “me.” Financial aspects of our family fell to me as one of my many other duties of being the at-home parent.

For us, the decision for me to stay at home was all about “what was best” for our kids. They did not need an iPad for every room, but we did want them to have actual chicken tenders instead of pink slime pressed into nuggets. As a result, things had to get tight around our house. Not the good “tight” like a Kid ‘N’ Play haircut, but the sad “eating cranberry sauce in July from last Thanksgiving because it’s the only thing I have besides my children’s food” kind. Groceries, lawn services, and wherever else I could find savings I did to keep our credit cards from overheating. One area I thought I could cut was our children’s hair. Literally. Continue reading