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pat and kepleyWe are college buddies who both became stay-at-home dads. Pat likes cookies and Kepley thinks he is smarter than everyone else. We get along.

This blog is for dads who stay-at-home, are considering staying at home, work part or full time, or just anybody looking for a laugh; we want to help cultivate this growing dad community.

We are not “Mr. Mom,” so we do our best at being just a dad. It is a full time job. Twenty-four hours a day. Seven days a week.

If this is your first time visiting, click here to learn more. Listen to us tell our story on the Life of Dad After Show Podcast by clicking here.

**Disclaimer** We are not experts.

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The Perfect Christmas Card

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I am “that guy” that is always looking to make the perfect whatever– the perfect engagement announcement, pregnancy announcement, Christmas card, birth announcement, whatever. No matter the occasion, it always begins with capturing the perfect picture which can make or break the perfect whatever.

Kepley and I have been trying to make each other laugh for 15 years. Kepley had both of his children before I had my first and every step along the way, when I’m struggling with a new phase, his first reaction is typically to chuckle and then help me through the phase using what we know best— humor.

As The Wife and I have added kids into our perfect picture announcements, I have had to accept that I win some and I lose some. The biggest obstacle is typically the kids as they simply can’t understand my vision for the photo shoot. Everyone’s lives would be so much better if they could, but this is where we are.

Then, there’s Kepley. One year he sent out a Christmas card of his two boys and I was excited to see their adorable smiling faces. Only there were no smiling faces, only a series of photos where neither of the kids are in complete focus, his wife’s arms are in most of the shots trying desperately to wrangle the kids and the culminating shot is of an infant’s foot knocking over a lamp. The caption read, “All we want for Christmas are kids who cooperate.” It was the most perfect Christmas card I had ever seen.

If we look too hard for the perfect shot, we could miss the brilliance and essence of the children in the process. Perfect is in the eyes of the beholder, and what could be more perfect than seeing perfection through the beautiful eyes of our children? They’re not actors or models, they’re movers and shakers, so let them move and shake.

Now that The Wife and I have added a second child to our photo shoots, this is advice that I really need to pay attention to. If one of them wants to put the Christmas lights in their mouth, just take the picture. Because, honestly, that sounds like a perfect picture to me.

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Harrison Mustache pic

Ode to a Mustache

Harrison Mustache picMy older son shed a tear last night when I told him I was going to shave my Movember mustache. I asked him why and he said, “Because it’s awesome.” There is no doubt in the moments you know you’ve succeeded as a parent.

I told him his mother disagreed with his mustache stance and he would have to talk to her about it. “Call her,” he said. I was shocked at his decisiveness and that in his 5 years of life he had picked this particular topic to take a stand on. Who am I to judge? So I dialed and he pleaded to my wife’s voice-mail to retain his father’s facial hair. It was seven minutes of tears, made up facts, a diagram, and a promise that would never fly away. It was the best argument I have ever heard.

I told him that we would take a final picture so he would have a remembrance of my mustache. I also assured him that I would frame it and put it by his bed. It seems silly to promise something like that and not go through the simple actions of taking care of myself. My health doesn’t just affect me, it affects everyone who loves and cares about me. That’s a hard truth to hear because it forces me to ask more of myself. To me, Movember is about raising that awareness so we can keep some great dads in their children’s lives.

The mustache is gone and I need to look for a frame.

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Movember Shave the Date – Two Ways

Every year, men are challenged to grow moustaches during Movember (the month formerly known as November) to spark conversation and raise funds for prostate cancer, testicular cancer and mental health problems. This year, Pat and Kepley are proud to join the online dad community in raising awareness and growing mustaches to change the face of men’s health. It all starts on November 1st with men everywhere taking part in Shave the Date.

Pat hasn’t been clean shaven in 13 years and Kepley might take a while, but it’s been told that he can grow one creepy mo. We really hope you will help us support this amazing cause.

We have joined an all star team of dads from Dad 2.0 Summit, the City Dads Group, the National At-Home Dad Network, and Life of Dad, along with fellow bloggers and dads that just want to do their part to raise awareness.

We would love for you to donate to this amazing cause and follow along with our ridiculous antics and even more ridiculous mo’s.

Pat’s Mo Space is located here: mobro.co/patjacobs247

Kepley’s Mo Space is located here: mobro.co/davidkepley247

You can see our team page here: Dads/Bloggers Team Mo Space

And for all the dads out there that aren’t sure about doing it… join us. Grow your mo and raise some dough!

The Dad Brothers Build a Crib

The Dad Brothers Build a Crib

 

The Dad Brothers Build a Crib

Only thing as good as having a child of your own is when someone close to you has one. All of the snuggles with none of the teething diapers.  I call that a Win/Win.

Pat is about to have a new baby girl grace his life. I can’t decide whether to envy or pity him. I think, “Who wouldn’t want a wonderful little girl that melts your heart like a Snickers in an Easy Bake Oven?” Then I ask myself, “Do I want to ask my wonderful little girl why the hem of her shorts is residing in Antarctica?” Like having Pat for a friend, it’s a blessing and a curse. Continue reading

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How to Raise a Girl to be Like a Girl

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Any day now, I will be the father of a baby girl and I’ll be honest, I’m terrified. As a stay-at-home dad, it has become soberingly clear that the responsibility of raising this little girl is resting on my overweight shoulders. I’m a boy. I have a boy. I’ve been raising my boy to be like a boy. But a girl is not a boy!

Raising a boy is easy. My boy thinks that atomic elbow drops are hysterical. When either of us makes a fart noise, we’re the funniest two boys on the planet. Is this all going to change when a little girl comes into our daily routine? Can I give a girl an atomic elbow drop? Is it alright to teach her how to make fart sounds? Or actual farting. Can I fart around a baby girl?!

These are legitimate parenting concerns for a boy that has been raising a boy and any day will be raising a girl. Continue reading

Thankful

Iggy the Roomba

 

ThankfulMy wife and I got a Roomba. We call her Iggy because she’s so fancy.

Sure, I could just sweep the floor in a tenth of the time. Sure, I have to clean everything off, just so my robo-hoover can clean. And sure, it could be possible that I go out of my way not to put it back on it’s charging station, just so I can watch stumble around and find it’s way home.

In my life, I have never felt as lazy as when I cheered for a robotized hockey puck. I’m questioning if I should feel accomplished or ashamed that my wife and I bet on which dust pile would meet it’s demise next. I’m leaning towards accomplished.

We quickly realized we had precious few hours of Roomba excellence before our children discovered it and the large green button on top. At 6:30 the next morning I felt two presences attempting silence outside my door. I carefully donned my glasses and watched them creep to the glowing monolith with a sense of awe. They whispered and pushed their way to the decision that it must have been put there for them. Continue reading

#howtodad cheerios

Peanut Butter Cheerios Dadvertising #HowToDad

The times they are a changin’. The rise of the modern dad has been gradual until now. There are more and more people, publications, and corporations realizing that it’s awesome to be a dad and a market to be had. The most effective way to reach the masses and spread the good word has been through advertising. Kudos to the new Peanut Butter Cheerios for showing the power of dadvertising for social change in America with their #HowToDad.