Dads Behaving Dadly: Delusions of a Stay-at-Home Dad

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As seen in the book Dads Behaving Dadly: 67 Truths, Tears and Triumphs of Modern Fatherhood from Motivational Press.

After many discussions, my wife and I decided I would become a stay-at- home dad when our son was 2-months-old. I was skeptical about whether I would thrive in my new position.
Would it be enough daily stimulation, interaction, conflict, etc. to get my hard-working juices flowing?

At first, I looked at it like this: I won’t have a real job. I’m taking the summer off! I’m going to spend some amazing time with my son. As the excitement rose for my new “job” as a stay-at-home dad, I decided to make a list of all the things I would get done:

• Read 3 books.
• Get back to my pre-baby weight.
• Ride my bike with the baby trailer up the big hill.
• Organize my photos in iPhoto.
• Misc jobs around the house: organize garage, organize office, etc.

At the end of the first week of staying at home, I had accomplished none of these things. I was beaten and broken like Humpty Dumpty after he fell off the wall. Continue reading

Dads Behaving Dadly: Bad Haircut

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As seen in the book Dads Behaving Dadly: 67 Truths, Tears and Triumphs of Modern Fatherhood from Motivational Press.

After having children, the only thing my wife and I argued about was our financial situation. When we were both working, we were so tired that we never paid attention to what we were spending. This changed when I started staying home with the kids. With just one income, we had to prioritize our “life-style needs” to make ends meet. (I call it that because, “Every last enjoyable thing that we still falsely believe we can do and buy, even though we have two children,” sounds desperate.) No longer could we crash exhaustedly into bed each night oblivious of spending habits. We had to wake up and tighten our belts. And when I say “we” I meant “me.” Financial aspects of our family fell to me as one of my many other duties of being the at-home parent.

For us, the decision for me to stay at home was all about “what was best” for our kids. They did not need an iPad for every room, but we did want them to have actual chicken tenders instead of pink slime pressed into nuggets. As a result, things had to get tight around our house. Not the good “tight” like a Kid ‘N’ Play haircut, but the sad “eating cranberry sauce in July from last Thanksgiving because it’s the only thing I have besides my children’s food” kind. Groceries, lawn services, and wherever else I could find savings I did to keep our credit cards from overheating. One area I thought I could cut was our children’s hair. Literally. Continue reading